Twelve plus months ago, measures were put in place to keep MM’s (My Man) parents in their own home as long as possible. There were visits from the home-care workers twice daily. The morning attendant helped them with showers, dressing, made breakfast, managed their prescriptions and did general cleaning. Before she left she would make lunch, leaving it in the fridge for them to help themselves. The afternoon attendant took care of the evening meal, tidying up and would do any shopping when required.
Recently, MM’s parent’s doctor advised him his parents can no longer live in their home after both of them were admitted into hospital a couple of times over a 2 month period due to ill-health.
The ill-health really related to old age and mismanagement of everything from their dietary requirements to their prescriptions. We noticed how little they ate and on many days forgot or not want to eat at least one of the three daily meals. The attendant would place the meds on the kitchen table for them to take but they did not watch to see that the medication needed to manage Alzheimer was being tossed in the rubbish bin by the Old Bugger (Aussie term of endearment). Cheeky sod decided he didn’t need it hence him not eating some meals. He kept thinking he had just eaten breakfast no matter what time of day or night it was.
MM would like to spend more time with his parents at this late stage of their life. To be blunt, every day is a bonus. MM and I had some long conversations and spent a few hours researching what services were available and decided to move them in with us rather than an aged care facility. They receive high care services now and can go up another level when the time comes for hospice care.
So we’ve sold the oldies house and moved them and ourselves to Woody Point. We have purchased a house with a granny flat which is set up for aged care and retained the home help services. We can now oversee their care and MM can spend some time with them after work. He is especially happy that he can plonk the old guy on a chair in the man cave and chat to him while he is working on projects. The Redcliffe area has many aged care facilities providing respite services. We will place them in one of these facilities for their care when we want to go away.
We are both really happy to be back in the area and living by the water again.