I prefer a firm one

When you place it in my hand, I really rather it not be limp. I much prefer the feel of a firm one. And if I’m holding yours extra firmly, I’m not coming on to you, I just like you.

Shaking hands when greeting;

I shake hands when greeting someone for the first time in most instances and always when conducting business. Following greetings with that person, I would say “Gidday” or “Hi, how you” but most likely not offer a handshake. If I’m meeting someone who I consider from a different country or a religion that might not shake hands,  I take their lead. If they put out their hand, I shake it. If they put their hands together and bow, I do the same.

I would say I have a firm grip as do 99% of the men’s hands I would shake. But when I’m given a limp hand or the tips of someone’s fingers… I cringe. I sense than the majority of women whose hands I have shaken, do not feel comfortable with the practice. The most common action I receive from woman is the offering of the tips of their fingers, palm facing down, with their arm stretched out. I’m not sure if they want me to shake their hand or kiss the top of it.

It’s really creepy when a guy gives you limp one.  I’m just stay…. and please, if you have a soft shake.. that’s fine… be proud of who you are and don’t let my preference offend you in any way. As I may like peas, you may prefer beans.






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14 Responses to I prefer a firm one

  1. marymcavoy says:

    Great post! 🙂 Couldn’t agree more! And like you, I follow the lead of the other if they seem to not be accustomed to a handshake. I now remember my mother instructing me that if I were to meet an older woman or a dignitary (female) that I should wait to see if she extends her hand for a shake – that it’s that woman’s prerogative! I suppose none of these practices apply any longer! Thanks for a fun post.


    • Now there’s a point.. perhaps I should hold back my hand and shake a fellow woman’s hand only if it’s extended to me. I must admit I tend to thrust out my hand whole heartedly. It could seem a little over-the-top hence the “startled” look on their faces followed by a quivering jelly hand… 🙂


      • marymcavoy says:

        Also, I think the handshake originated as a show of “I carry no weapon” so really it’s a gesture of peace. I say keep right on thrusting out your hand whole heartedly!!!


  2. suzjones says:

    I agree. I definitely prefer a firm handshake and will certainly ensure that any handshake I give is firm. 🙂

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  3. nggggr says:

    Definitely a fan of the firm handshake haha!


  4. With you on this, nothing worse than a limp handshake, firm is always best!!


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